Women have affairs when the relationship is not addressing their needs.
CHEATING is something that happens to women. Women are abandoned, scorned, discarded, left. Men are the actors, the cheaters, the seed disemenators—the doers doing those they aren’t supposed to be doing—that is, if you rely solely on information gleaned from film, music, magazines, stock photos, and candid conversations you’ve overheard at brunch.
The most popular and enduring images of infidelity are of women reacting to their betrayal: politicians’ wives standing behind their men both literally and figuratively; Angela Basset pouring lighter fluid on her husband’s car and clothing in Waiting to Exhale; Bette Midler, Goldie Hawn, and Diane Keaton dressed entirely in white, singing Lesley Gore’s “You Don’t Own Me”; and every devastated and bedraggled woman doing something sad and desperate in every Tyler Perry film ever.